Should be interesting.
I remember sharing the news with my friends that boyfriend and I had finally “done the deed”, in pure Sex and the City style. This was a big deal since it took him forever to get up the nerve to even kiss me. Anyways, with any other guy, they would’ve asked me if it was good, and that would be it. With boyfriend, they all kinda gave me this look after I said it was good. Very curious looks. Almost quizzical. They started to pry for details: how was his body, how was his, ummm… certain body member, was he adventurous, etc…. As sexy as my guy is, there seemed to be some doubt as to his sexual prowess. And why? Obviously because he’s Asian.
In fact, at the beginning of our relationship, before most of my friends had even seen him, when I said he was Korean, they were a bit confused. Like a white, blond-haired, blue-eyed girl shouldn’t date an asian guy. What in the world could I see in him? Wasn’t he skinny and dorky? Was he short? While they didn’t say these things, I know this is what was going through their heads. My friends are all very educated, open-minded, kind people, but this is just what society has drilled into our heads. Asian guys are not sexy. They are not date-able for white women. How often have you seen an Asian guy get the girl in a Hollywood movie? When have you ever even really seen an Asian guy portrayed as hot?
Whatever. I’ve learned an amazing secret, that hopefully other white girls will learn as well, and that’s that Asian men can be sexy, fun, hot, and oh yeah…. AMAZING in bed.